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You're Probably Being a B*tch to Yourself Right Now
It's easy to imagine a far off future where you feel better.
Where you have all the money and time and none of the stress or uncertainty you have today.
We're wired to want that kind of escape. But the truth about that fantasy is that you're not just looking forward to some day when you'll finally have the life you want.
What you're really hoping for is a future where you're not a bitch to yourself anymore.
But instead of addressing that relationship, we go for…
Morbid—or genius? Grief as a Reason to Live
“This is mine…today.” I thought as I poured mouthwash into the cap of the bottle.
Because tomorrow isn’t promised. And I know that. What I have today, even in this moment, may or may not be mine any longer. Not in one moment, in one hour, not in one day.
And that is what you learn when Big Grief finds you…
In Overdrive and Anxiety? You're Already Living the Life You're Chasing (Here's How to See It)
Apparently I'm not the only one haunted by a voice that tells me, often, that I "should" be somewhere else, doing something else, faster and more efficiently than I already am. Which usually means I also "should" already have done things better than they're done.
Lately I've been asking myself a question that gets the voice to pause and reconsider….
3 Shifts To Loosen the Grip of Perfectionism Without Losing Yourself
The programming of perfectionism runs deep—and it's smart. Because you're smart. It's not some foreign part of you or some alien descended into your system—it's the part of you driven to be better, do better, and live better.
It's nobility, loyalty, honesty, and all kinds of other virtues tangled together, and then drained of any real compassion for the moments in life when you're not perfectly everything.
Even writing about perfectionism triggers my own…