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The 1% Target: How to Stop Over-Functioning Your Way Through Big Transitions
You could be spending 80% of your energy on something that takes up 1% of your time. And you might not even realize it.
It happens when you're Trying to Survive.
Big transitions crank up the uncertainty in our life. So we grasp for something to control. Something that will validate us and affirm that we're making the right moves—while maintaining the identity we've known so well.
Yet, the more of our time, energy, and attention we put into Making Sure Everything Goes Right, the more emotionally and energetically bankrupt we feel.
In Overdrive and Anxiety? You're Already Living the Life You're Chasing (Here's How to See It)
Apparently I'm not the only one haunted by a voice that tells me, often, that I "should" be somewhere else, doing something else, faster and more efficiently than I already am. Which usually means I also "should" already have done things better than they're done.
Lately I've been asking myself a question that gets the voice to pause and reconsider….
3 Shifts To Loosen the Grip of Perfectionism Without Losing Yourself
The programming of perfectionism runs deep—and it's smart. Because you're smart. It's not some foreign part of you or some alien descended into your system—it's the part of you driven to be better, do better, and live better.
It's nobility, loyalty, honesty, and all kinds of other virtues tangled together, and then drained of any real compassion for the moments in life when you're not perfectly everything.
Even writing about perfectionism triggers my own…