“The sex is good… great actually… but I still don’t feel comfortable in my own skin as a woman,” she said.
Sexual disconnect is not “just about sex,” the effects run deep and wide. When we measure the health and vitality of our sexuality based on the amount of pleasure we can experience in a sexual encounter - we’ve only found a fragment of an answer.
Orgasms don’t automatically equal empowerment.
Disconnect from sexual power can manifest itself in feelings of fear and lack around money, insecurity around creativity and abilities, body hate, deflecting attention, resistance in intimate relationships, nagging your children, and an obsessive clinging to dogma, rules, and perfectionism. All of these are external symptoms of
There’s one thing NO orgasms and TOO MANY orgasms have in common…
They can both leave you utterly dissatisfied, frustrated, and on edge… but why?
“What does it mean to be sexually satisfied?"
This was the question I was still asking myself after years working through my own sexual shame, emotional blocks, and intimate resistance. Even though I had found sensual liberation within myself and sexual connection with my partner like never before… there was something missing....
"Dyslexia is a gift, a talent,” she said… and my jaw dropped. I didn't think that my child had any sort of learning disability, so it never occurred to me that I would need a "special education" expert as a tutor for him… until I met Linda Vettrus-Nichols.
Linda has taught me that learning disabilities are just symptoms that show up when foundational pieces and patterns of self-regulation are not put in place - when...
The phenomenon of “outgrowing” a partner is a laughable myth.
Laughable, at least, in the sense that claiming you’ve outgrown a person or a relationship suggests that you’ve involuntarily become bigger than the relationship. A partner is not a pair of pants, and you can’t outgrow them like a bean-sprout of a teenager who grew
… and I’ll bet you dream of your past loves, too. EVEN IF you’re happily paired with your partner.
The more I talk with other men and women about their dream lives the more intrigued I am by what we dream of, how we dream, and what’s really happening when particular people and events show up there. Our dreams are
When I said “I do” few days after my 19th birthday, there was one thing I knew – this marriage would be full of change and growth.
Little did I know how challenging and painful that change and growth would sometimes be.
When I married my husband, I knew that he struggled with an addiction to pornography. In fact, I was sure that getting married would help since we hadn’t been sexually active before marriage and from what I knew of “every man’s struggle” from Christian culture, dogma, and literature – if a man’s desires were appropriately satisfied and if he simply “turned his eyes” from temptation, then he would not “wander"...
There was always a bad boy in school and I wanted him. This was the fantasy of my youth.
I wanted these bad boys to be my boyfriend and I wanted to turn them good.
I never had the chance to carry my fantasy through, but it never quite left me. Years later, I discovered the deeper meaning of this fantasy and what it means about Femininity, Masculinity, and the Divine Dance…we all crave in our lives, our relationships, and our work.
An interesting and eye-opening event transpired the other day in the corner of my favorite coffee shop.