No one is going to buy from you.
You're not going to make a sale.
That is...unless you are sold on YOU first.
I can't tell you how many times I review a woman's copy and start to ask her:
‘Who is the woman that you're really speaking to here? Who is the client that you really want to get with this offer, this landing page, this email? What are you really selling them?’
I have to ask these questions because…
My shallow is deeper than most dare to go.
My mediocre is greatness.
My failures look like achievements.
My imperfections are the scars that paint stories across the canvas of me.
In the last year I've learned a few things about myself:
😬 I'm a pretty fucking intense and dynamic person. If you're afraid of your own joy, squirm in the ecstasy of unapologetic and brazen laughter, and uncomfortable playing in your shadows...you will be challenged in my presence.
😳 The way I make eye contact is an unwavering attempt at connecting with your soul. If you're not connected to yourself it feels pretty damn intimidating. I want to know you, see you, and hear you with all that I am.
🧐 What I think is common sense, isn't common in the least. Respect, integrity, honesty, and ethics are woven into the core of my being. The way some people behave and treat others is appalling to me. Take some responsibility for yourself and conjure up your tenacity...aka get your shit together and grow yourself up or we're not going to be able to hang for long.
Accepting the wildness, the intensity, and the integrity of who I am, is creating a new life around me.
When I notice I'm holding back, not wanting to be too much I have to ask myself this question:
DO I REALLY WANT A ________ (client, lover, friend) IN MY LIFE WHO DOES NOT LIKE _____________ ABOUT ME?
Do I really want to work with clients who can't handle a dropped F bomb, a dash of sass, and personal connection in the professional realm? No.
Do I really want to put time and energy into dating/relationships where I can't express my wild, worshipful, playfully obsessive nature? No.
Do I really want to have friends who can't see me, love me, and accept my very unconventional life and family? No.
Cut. The. Shit. And stop hesitating at every turn, stop stuttering when you're compelled to speak, stop overthinking every word you speak, every text you send, choice you make, and action you take.
THE ONLY PERSON WORTH BEING IS YOURSELF.
When you lay in bed at night resting in the satisfaction of living your life from the core of your soul, you'll wonder how you ever survived living it for everyone else.
I promise you, no amount of attempting to maintain the image you think everyone else has about you will comfort you when you find yourself in a literal life-or-death situation, or taking your last breaths.
It seems dark, doesn't it, to get so intense about death?
...but the contemplation of death is what allows us to see the contrast and value of life.
It brings us into the present because we eliminate the illusion, fear, and anxiety about the future which only exists in our minds.
Your inner drama, past programming, and stories may trigger EMOTIONS that are NOT EMERGENCIES in your life...remember that.
Because while what we feel and fear now isn't emergent, living life is URGENT and always trying to draw us in and compel us to let go of our limitations and liberate our most authentic self.
This journey never ends.
A year from now I will have changed again, probably more than most people change or experience in 10 years.
I might disagree with my past self, or I may see her in a different light.
I may be building on foundations I set years or even decades ago and I may be tearing other ones out of the ground, uprooting things I thought were true but no longer find useful and supportive.
This is what it means to be free. To fail and celebrate. To wade in the water, dive deep, and enjoy the sand between my toes. To let myself live live with something (gasp!) less than a 4.0 GPA.
Life is a lot more generous than we're led to believe, and so little of it is about how you measure up, how you compare to others, and how well you manage the status quo.
We're all bored of the mediocre, of false humility, and the paralysis of perfection.
Let's live in the grit, feel the texture of life, taste the nectars of pleasure, and relish in the ravenous desires that bring new worlds to life...shall we?
💋 Steena Marie
If your pussy’s not wet...you’re not living yet.
And if you’re a proud cock owner, I hope you’re dripping, too.
The nectar of your life force is meant to flow in and from your body, freely.
Have I made you squirm yet? Is it uncomfortable for you to hear such a direct address of your genitals, your turn on, and the power and presence of your own arousal?
We’ve been taught to fear, to numb, and to block our sexuality and our erotic natures.
In trying to control and limit our life force we hold the breath of our souls. As a culture we castrate men because we fear their power while silencing women because we see their voices as dangerous weapons of change.
The divine masculine and feminine that reside in each one of us regardless of gender are meant to live in a dance. Much like the contraction and relaxation of a muscle, the energy of feminine and masculine is meant to be dynamic, with a full range of motion.
The patriarchal paradigm of living isn’t a gendered issue, it’s a toxic system of disembodiment and dissociation that we buy into every time we violate our desires and ignore our intuitions.
In 2018, how did you perpetuate this limiting paradigm in your own life?
In what ways have you trained yourself to be the good little girl or boy robot that you were taught to be?
Is your back sore from bending over backwards trying to behave yourself in order to keep the world happy?
Have you been fooled into thinking that happiness of others is the point?
Happy isn’t the point at all. Freedom is the point. Fullness is the point. Dynamic life experience is the point.
We crave pain as much as we crave pleasure and chaos as much as order. Usually we’re in denial of this, and it creates an unconscious creation in our lives that feels out of our control. This is what we call ‘victimhood.’
What does it look like to move out of this? To become self-aware? To allow ourselves to self-express? To discard and bring holy destruction to all that holds us captive?
Heading into the last couple of months of 2018 and now sliding into the new year the themes that continue to rise up for me are “innocence” and “simplicity.
Consider with me...
The innocence of lust.
The simplicity of pure desire.
The innocence of sex.
The simplicity of soul.
The innocence of creativity.
The simplicity of only energetically, emotionally, spiritually, and financially ONLY investing in what you truly want.
What does this freedom feel like to you? Where do you feel the liberation of innocence and simplicity in your body? Can you feel it?
This is what it means to be embodied - to be able to assess yourself and fear no emotion or experience possible. You are a powerful being who has sovereignty over your own thoughts and emotions. Yes, yes, yes, creative one, you can face your life with the utmost confidence and conviction this year.
Do you actually KNOW what you want?
Can you, with full body certainty, say that you’re clear on the exact next step you are to take in your life.
Are you allowing yourself to fully give your gifts, to exhale your breath, to express your-Self into the world? Only then will you fully receive, fully inhale, and fully relate to others and live richly.
I see the limits we put on our voices and power as people result in
Watered down leadership
Depression and anxiety
This is not your divine destiny, love. There is SO MUCH MORE available to you, and, in fact, it is already within you. Just open your mouth, make a moan, hear your words and song. You are a creative being with a vibration all your own. It’s there, we just need to move it through your being and expand it out into the world.
Whether you’re working on transforming your intimate relationships and communication skills in 2019 or you’re launching a new business endeavor and know the deep value of relating to your audience through potent copywriting, I invite you to book in a complimentary Voice Breakthrough call with me. We’ll map out a vision and plan for your year with clear steps for you to take...that honor your true, wild nature and stir up the fragrance of freedom, simplicity, and innocence in your life this year.
Many New Year Blessings, m’love.